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Acting on impulse can be a good thing . . . if you do it right.

8/13/2018

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Allow me to ask you a question, and then, think about your answer and whatever it conjours up in your mind before you read on.

‘Have you ever acted on impulse?’

(false question … because we all have … so I’ll rephrase …)

When did you last act on impulse to do something, and did it pay off?’

Okay, so here’s the thing; acting on impulse to do something can take many forms and lead to many results. Some of these will be positive but many will be consequential and lead us to regret.  Here’s an example that you might relate to:

Quite recently, my wife arrived home from a shopping trip with a wonderfully colourful rug that was hugely reduced in price. (She loves spending money … when we’ve got it!) The saving was something in the region of £25 ($30-35). She had seen it on the market and fallen in love with it immediately. The rug could fit in our living room if I moved some of the furniture around. It was a harmonious clash of colours, but that didn’t come into play because we’d saved £25! The damn thing should have cost £90 and we got this fantastic bargain for just £65! The only trouble was … we didn’t need it. And, actually, we couldn’t really afford it. 
My dearest had bought on impulse.
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She’d fallen for that age-old sales trick of inflating the price then putting the item on  a huge discount. She bought it knowing she had a bargain, but it didn’t occur to her that there was just a chance that it might not actually benefit us one bit – it didn’t. 
Since then we have acquired a huge dog (actually my son’s), but as he is now back living with us the lovey animal is around most of the time. We have also acquired a new dear granddaughter who visits regularly, so guess what’s happened to the rug? Not wanting it to become full of hairs and then our granddaughter crawling amongst them, my dearest has had to roll it up and file it away for later! 
Have we truly benefitted in any way from her impulse buy of a few months back? …  I don’t think so.


This story is typical. Does you’re mind go back to something similar? Or do you have a positive experience of doing something on impulse? … I’d love to know.


Going back to the rug … we’ve all been there, but things can be better and we can choose whether or not to take control when these situations occur and make sure they can always benefit us in some way IF we follow a few simple rules.


I’m going to tell you about two extremes and how they have both worked for me in completely different ways, but first, there are a few rules about doing things
​on impulse to get clear.


•  Never do it purely because you’ve seen a cut price offer and think you’re making an unbelievably worthwhile saving – you won’t be
•  Brain and heart must both say ‘Yes’ . In other words, be rational, but truly believe that what you’re doing is for the best. You must have a strong positive gut feeling.
•  If those two things aren’t right … don’t take things further.

So, that’s easy to say, but how do we make it work for us?  
Well, acting on impulse can be a good thing and I’m going to tell you how.

I did something earlier this week that shocked everybody that knows me. I always spend what money I have carefully; Like everyone, I make misjudgemental mistakes from time to time,  but the other day I went out early in the morning and came back with this.

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By the end of the morning I was driving it home. My family, were pleased because they trusted me, but they were overwhelmed that I had just gone out and bought a car – especially as they knew I had no actual money and there was no trade-in on my old banger that I had preached about not being  able to afford to replace for weeks.
So what happened? Why did I do this/
Well, as always, there is a back story …


I knew that at any time I might land a bill on the old Fiat that made it not worth spending the money on. There were things inherently wrong with it – like the clutch was on it’s way out last year! (that’s been quite a joke amongst friends and family, but new clutches don’t come cheap.) So I made a definite decision that when the moment came I would have to do something drastic and I was prepared to pull all the strings I could to work this one in my favour. I’d been looking around at ways of making the money I have work a little harder for me instead of me always working harder to get that same money, so I’d been laying down a few stones … solid rocks so to speak. I won’t go into detail here but I kind of know that the next three months are going to be better than the last three.

This was all down to other things I had pipelining
(an important point if you’re going to act on impulse where money is concerned)


I also know that there is a little earner coming my wife’s way which will help us out at least over the short term.
Then, there were other things, like getting any sort of credit to make monthly payments had been out of the question for me for a few years now but there was daylight at the end of the tunnel. I knew just how much my old car was costing me to run. (Remember that clutch had gone . . . and most of the fuel gets drunk in gear changing and acceleration … think about that – and how little mileage I might be getting to the litre of fuel!)  I’d already worked out on what a newer car might save me every month.  When it came to it, I had to apply for credit, I needed a monthly payment plan. 
In the UK, if you think you might not get credit, don’t apply … whatever anyone tells you a failed application makes things worse.
But I had no choice.
The choice I did have was to wait and not to have applied earlier when I didn’t really need it. This has been a deliberate strategy of mine for the last two years, and it paid off. Because I had held off for long enough until the critical moment came it was all good, I had recovered enough financially to qualify for whatever I needed. 


Now, I was in the driving seat. The salesman, after having me in front of him for 30 minutes really wanted to sell to me and I really wanted the car – there was honesty here from both camps, but the most honest thing I told him was how I couldn’t afford to take the risk and I needed everything covered, right down to a full guarantee for the duration of the payment period. 


The result of all this:  Setting off all the costs I had for my other car against the new one, I’m paying something around £30 a month more for something way, way better, and I got a watertight deal that’s given me five years peace of mind. 


Friends and family are asking how I did it as it seemed a totally impulsive action.
It took 3 hours of hard bargaining, but I got just the best deal. In fact, since the other day I have met two other people that have bought from the same place, one, even from the same salesman, and they are both paying way more than me for way less.


If you are determined and things are already in place you can get yourself the best deal. You just need to do things right.

​The secret:


I had assessed the situation and made sure several things were in place
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before I acted on impulse.

Now I’m not telling you all this so you can sit back and appreciate how well I might have done. Who really cares … until it becomes something you can implement for yourself.
For years I have looked on at people who have probably done something very similar and I’ve wondered just how they’ve managed it. Now I’m thinking every dog can have his day, IF you get things right in the planning.

What appears to be an act of impulse buying often derives as a result of
​careful planning

​I’ve thought about this a lot the last few days, and the thing that rings through my head is this:

Anybody can make this work if you have the important parts in place first

There is far more to this whole thing of acting upon impulse than you might think. We are human and we will always act impulsively in certain situations. There are so many things in life we react to on a daily basis it becomes hard to draw the line between true necessity and the impulsive actions we take without good reason. If someone  decides to throw a punch at you there is an impulsive (instinctive) urge to duck or move away. If you come across a $100 bill on the floor you have an impulsive (instinctive) urge to pick it up … what you might do with it after that depends on the circumstance of the situation.
So you see, we are all wired to act in situations that require an impulsive response but we may respond quite differently in certain situations.

But can things that are long-term be born of an impulsive action?

Let me tell you about something else that has been on the news in my local area over the last month.
The City I live four miles from the centre of is a fairly typical UK City. It has seen massive growth over the last twenty years just like a lot of other towns and cities, but it has remained true to it’s routes, and historical occasions quite rightly, get celebrated.
Peterborough was once a small dwelling place with some of the surrounding villages once being larger. But something happened several hundred years ago that gave it some real status. When the Abbey in the centre of the town was burned to the ground a new era began. A new wave of peasant folk jumped on board to take part in one of the biggest builds there has ever been in this part of the world. In 1118 (yes, I realise 900 years is a long while ago), the building of Peterborough Cathedral was completed. I stand in awe and wonder every time I pass by just how they did it!
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This was 900 years ago; it took 70 years and three generations of workers to complete … yet, it was still an ‘impulsive’ project.

They didn’t need to build it, nobody was pointing a gun at anyone’s head, but enough people felt it must happen … and so it did.


A few years ago I acted impulsively to something that happened around me and the result led to my writing career taking off in some small way.
I go into great detail about this elsewhere,  but in a nutshell, this is what happened:

A family member had a strange, ghostly experience late one night. The next day a sporting event took place involving the City’s football team. I told my children a story that ‘mixed’ the two things together (in part), and my eldest daughter, over hearing it said I should write it down. I did so and it actually became two separate stories, one of them did make the Spirit of Peterborough series and one them didn't ... but that's altogether another story for another time.



                                           I had to act right away, and I knew it.


Acting on impulse is a good thing to do when you are following a true gut instinct – a real feeling that the thing you are about to embark upon is the right thing for you to do at that particular point in time.
For this to work you must have planned for the moment. It’s all about timing. Whether you are buying something or taking action to do something or actually using your talents to create something new, these things have to be locked in place. So you see, acting on impulse need not be negative. in fact … quite the opposite.
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So what are you going to do? What will be your next move?
Or can you even guess when that moment might arise that you do something impulsively that is for the better?
I’d love to hear about whenever you acted on an impulsive feeling and how it worked out for you. And in reflection, is there anything else you would do if you had your chance again?


To make this interesting I will send a free copy of The Ghost Walks, the 3rd story in the series The Spirit of Peterborough to the first six people that leave an answer in the  comments below.

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If you haven’t read it, here is the link to the first story  … it’s free … enjoy.
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10 Comments
Pat
8/14/2018 04:37:57 pm

I am not normally an impulsive person but this may not be the last impulsive thing I've done, just my most expensive. I have always enjoyed attending classes and being in school, except when I had to go so I'm talking college classes now. I loved the classes and information that earned my associate's degree, the bachelor's and the master's. All gave me pleasure to get and put me in a bit of debt of around $20,000 (U.S.). But I got a bug to get the PhD and because I'm older and more tired, and have more things to do, it took me 7 years, I hope to finish finally in Dec 2018. But now I'm in debt of over $167,000. I enjoyed taking the classes though I'm struggling with the dissertation that is now being submitted for school approval BUT I'm getting close to retirement so what is the purpose? Just to say I have a doctorate degree, to hear people call me Dr. Maybe a few years ago (when I started) that was important but not 6 years from retirement. Too bad I waited. But not to take away from your - wait for the right time. I just missed the right time. Actually, since the doctorate is in the education field (special education) I'm not going to get much out of it. I'm not even working in that field as a teacher anymore. But, the debt is mine and hopefully I can repay it before I die (haha)

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Tom
8/14/2018 05:41:23 pm

Hey Pat, it's always hard to rationalise over debt but there are positives. Your debt is for a good thing you have done (doing), but, as you say, it looks like in the scheme of things you've timed it wrong.
Over here in the UK there is always a way to deal with debt, there are places you can go to make it easier over time. I hope you can find a way to manage it okay. Be proud at least of becoming a Dr. You've achieved something that is beyond the average person.

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Pat Eroh
8/15/2018 06:37:53 pm

Thank you Tom! Wouldn't that be awesome if I could move there to the UK? :). But I'm so stuck here.

Yes, my husband says I should not regret the education. Maybe I can do research during my retirement - keep me busy. And I suppose it will be cool to be called a doctor. haha. So I may just yet be happy for this. Thank you for your encouraging words and the book, which looks as awesome as your first and second. Can't wait to read it.

Tom
8/15/2018 10:49:11 pm

I really hope you find some happiness for it all. Thanks for your kind comments about my books. You know, it only just occurred to me, the two teenagers that are the main characters in The Ghost walks are modelled on my daughter and her friend and the whole scenario was about them kind of acting on impulse one summer evening ...

Tonya
8/14/2018 05:11:49 pm

I typically am not an impulsive spender because I really do not like to go shopping. The last impulsive buy I made was a 24 detox regiment and it was very espensive at a little over $200 (U.S.) I did everything as I was supposed to and literally only lost water weight. I was so disgusted because a friend had sold it to me. Did not tell me there are other things you have to guy in order for it to work. So needless to say that was a large chunk of money when I could have done the same thing with my regular diet.

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Tom
8/14/2018 05:47:36 pm

It's never good when you've lost out, it kind of puts you off doing it again. But the point is you can turn the tables and make an impulsive action work for you ... just have to time it right and have enough things in place to truly believe you are right.

Me and cars have never had a good relationship until this time around. I've had so many bad experiences, but most of them were sheer poor luck rather than bad errors of financial misjudgement.

There's always an element of risk. It does sound like your buy was a bit of a scam. Hopefully, learn from it and wait until that 'right' moment before you spend big again.

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Wanda
8/15/2018 06:40:28 am

Our factory was closing and we had a choice of going to school or letting the government facility find us another job. On impulse I chose school. I thought with a college degree I would make more money and would get to work in an office so I would be cleaner than working in a factory. I took two years of college in office occupation and medical transcription.

To date, that decision has been the worst of my life. I, in fact, made less money and worked just as hard. I had no insurance. I worked in an attorney's office and a doctor's office and the women were petty, back-stabbing and ill mannered. I got fed up and went back to work in a factory.

The trouble over-all was that for over seven years I worked in the offices and with my husband losing some of his jobs, we got strapped financially. If I had just kept working in factories, we would have been all right in the long run I think.

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Tom
8/15/2018 09:06:22 am

It's a hard one. Acting on impulse to do something without the things in place to guide you can lead to disappointment. I think the thing to take away is always do your research, follow your gut feeling but you've got to know something of what you're getting into otherwise it becomes a lottery. I hope things work out for you better in the future.

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Maria
8/15/2018 08:25:21 am

Hi Tom, I seldom make large decisions impulsively, and the small ones... usually involve buying books and/or stitching supplies :) One impulsive decision I made about 18 years ago was to accept an invitation to a workshop being hosted by a local embroidery guild and it turned into a very rewarding experience and lead to me joining the guild, holding a board position with the guild and meeting so many new friends and acquiring a lot of new skills and 18 years later it is still bringing me enjoyment, this past summer I took a cruise from Sydney Aus, to Seattle WA that included 3 stitching classes!! so now I have new stitching friends from Aus and NZ!

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Tom
8/15/2018 10:16:51 am

Hey Maria, that is a really positive move you made there ... and looked what it opened up for you!
Something must have told your senses that it was the right thing to do at the time. I'm guessing that you had some knowledge of the subject at the time you made this decision? That makes so much difference because although impulsive, you are really making an informed choice. It's great to hear that 18 years down the line you are still benefitting.

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